Some of what you’re about to read is distressing. Actually, fuck it, this entire post is fucking distressing and most of it I’ve written in either tears, or in disbelief. I recommend reading this post when you’re in an ok state of mind. And if you’re like me, and never in an ok state of … More Death By Hate, Death By Ignorance
Yes, the title is correct people – The.Gays.Are.Revolting! But in a good way. A fun way. A hilarious way, and now in a not-soo-new medium – Podcast-ing. I’ve been listening to podcasts for the last four-to-six months since my best mate Dan started me on the incredible The Teachers Pet and Casefile due to our … More The Gays Are Revolting
Ok, first up, sorry for the lack of content recently and the lack of ideas. I’ve been concentrating on my manuscript “Within These Walls” therefore I haven’t had much time to focus on ‘Life Love Lube’ but I think this should change. But in order for this to happen I might need your help.. ..I … More Content Please!
First of all, I’ve had this post in mind for many..many..many..many months, if not a year, but I wasn’t too sure how to present it, discuss the issue [because it is an issue], or make it worthwhile for people to respond or even give it some actual-decent-thought – heaven forbid making an actual change to … More Kindr Gays – A Reality or Wishful Thinking?
I wrote this post a week or two ago and I only just remembered I didn’t post it…because I was 41,000 feet in the air and I didn’t have any wifi [yes, shock horror to all those judgmental gays, I was on an international flight with a budget airline – I can hear the gasps … More Roles We Play & The Selfish Other Half
Suostei សួស្តីសម្លាញ់ everyone! That’s Khmer for “hello”, and yes I did use an online translation tool for that because I don’t speak Khmer and it still might be slightly wrong – apologies to the Cambodian people. I use the Cambodian language simply because next week I’m heading back overseas and heading to Cambodia again for … More A Final Trip..
Hola all! No, I have not become Spanish, I’m simply stepping out of my comfort zone for this post and opening up a little more than I previously have. Not many of you will know this but over the last twenty-four months I’ve been writing a story. Not for Life, Love & Lube, but my … More Within These Walls: A Memoir
At what stage at the end of a relationship is it safe and acceptable to move on. Like, really move on – like a re-download Grindr and Tinder [yet again] and move on? I’ve been single again for a month now and I’m having debates with myself about whether it’s time to suck up all … More Life Does Goes On, I know..
Sawadee Khrap you big bunch of homos! First up, I will hereby only refer to Bangkok as “Bangcock”, simply because I’m childish. Every time someone says “Bangcock” I can’t help but chuckle to myself. It’s funny, right?! It’s a funny name for my favorite city in the world, after my home town of Melbourne, of course, as … More Welcome to Bangcock!
Relationships are cunts. Please excuse my french, I’m in no state to watch my mouth today. We all know it. Don’t kid yourself thinking you’ll be with your partner forever because forever really doesn’t exist. Things end. There’s always an ending in this day and age. Soo it seems. Yes, you might be right in … More A Painful Heartbreak
I love art. I really do. But I’m certainly no art-wanker. I managed an art store in Newtown, Sydney for years and I have artwork around my house that continues to inspire me on a daily basis. I think art means different things to different people but I think we should all have art upon … More Upon these Walls: Bigger, Brighter and Better!
First of all, I’d like to point out that I’ve never been the best gay. Saying this probably makes me sound even worse than I already feel but it’s true. I’m a shit one. I’ve never been one to attend a rally for gay rights, I’ve never held up signs screaming for equality and I … More My deepest apologies to the LGBTIQA community
I recently met a self-confessed size-queen. It got me asking a few questions, to myself, but I was unable to answer them all. It also got me asking whether or not the self-confessed size-queen measured his own dick and took that into account before judging others. Or is this just merely another preference? Now, first … More One Size Fits All…Apparently NOT!
Tonight I met up with a guy for a drink that I met and started chatting with on Grindr thismorning and I’ve realised I’m either crap at this whole thing or I really have no fucking idea what gays want these days. To be honest, I’d say it’s a bit of both. And to be … More Auditions, Auditions, Auditions!
I don’t want all my posts to be about gay shit. Being gay is only a small part of who I am and lots of you don’t know me outside the bedroom soo today I’m going to write about something else. I love film and I love TV. I went to film school back in … More Stranger Things…a different kind of post.
UPDATE: This post was featured on SameSame on Saturday 16th July 2016 in edited form and you can view it here. I strongly believe that not everyone gets tested as often as they should. I’ve even got friends, some gay, that admit to never being tested. Like, ever. Yes, never ever! And they are my age … More Condoman..we meet yet again!
Soo I’ve been back living in Sydney for a few weeks now and it’s going well. Living in Dulwich Hill in the Inner West, my old stomping ground, I’m right near lots of my friends, some within walking distance. I’ve already started a job and left, due to really bad management and lets just say … More It’s Sydney bitch and…I’m back!
This post is not for asexuals. I repeat, not for asexuals. If any of you are reading this, please check out my other posts…now. Hookups are in some way an important and necessary factor in the gay community. Well, to most of us anyway. Most guys that I know. And when it comes to man-on-man … More Anatomy of a Hookup
I’m thinking a move back to Sydney is on the cards. While I never felt like I fit into the Sydney gay scene with all the ruffles, skirts, squeals, drama, glitter, bitching, backstabbing, judging (and the list goes on…) I’ve come to realise it’s all about how you feel about yourself and the people you … More Sydney, I hear you calling..
You can see a slightly shorter version of this blog on SameSame here. I’ve discussed this topic with a number of guys over the last few months and this seems to be the topic that most really want to follow. I could tell in their voices that it’s a somewhat touchy subject matter and no-one … More Open Relationships – Do we all need to be open to the idea?
Firstly; don’t get me wrong – I believe everyone deserves equality no matter your race, skin colour, sexual preference, eye colour, dick size, what type of car you drive, body type and what brand of clothing you wear, whether it be Asos, a Myer brand or Louis Vuitton….however, my ex works for Louis Vuitton and … More “We want equality! And we want it now!”….but do you really practise equality?
I’ve had a few conversations with some mates lately and it’s got me thinking about my role in the bedroom and whether or not you can just stick to one role – top or bottom or should we all be somewhat versatile? Because I class myself as a “top”, always have and I thought I always … More TOP / BTM vs VERSATILE?
Grindr. The mostly all male – I swear I’ve seen some women on there – app that seems like every gay guy has. Every gay that’s single, in an open relationship or cheating on his partner that is. Yes, generalisation, but that’s what it feels like. I’m not limiting this to Grindr, I’m sure this … More Is Grindr addictive? Or is it just me that’s addicted?
Soo I was just going through all the pics on my phone while bored in bed (alone) on this long weekend (in Victoria) and it bought something to my attention – boy, do I have a large amount of hole pics on my phone! But first things first; As a top I appreciate a hot arse pic. … More Hole Pics: Not For The Faint Hearted
I need some advice.. A good mate of mine, Scott, has talked me into going on the Atlantis Anthem Caribbean Cruise with him in May 2016. It looks amazing but I can’t stop thinking it’s just going to be one massive orgy with 4,200 gays. I imagine the entire week to be one big cruising opportunity for … More Gay Cruise: Are they just one big orgy?
I recently wrote an email to Matt Akersten from SameSame with my frustrations on the lack of gay dating that seems to be going on in the gay world. It feels like it’s either a casual fuck or it’s just mates. Is commitment a thing of the past? You can see the original SameSame post … More More than just sex, please! Do guys actually go on dates anymore?