Firstly; don’t get me wrong – I believe everyone deserves equality no matter your race, skin colour, sexual preference, eye colour, dick size, what type of car you drive, body type and what brand of clothing you wear, whether it be Asos, a Myer brand or Louis Vuitton….however, my ex works for Louis Vuitton and boy was he convinced he was better than everyone else!
I’m really not the type of gay to head to marches and demand equality for our community and hold up banners and wave my hands in the air shouting…I generally save the hands part for when I’m heavily intoxicated and dancing on my coffee table convinced I’m a backup dancer for Daniel Johns. However, it’s come to my attention that if we really want equality shouldn’t we first practise it within our own community?
Let me cut through all the bullshit and ask you all a serious question; do we actually, truly and without doubt practise equality within our own community? Or even slightly? Unless you’re completely delusional, the answer is unequivocally no.
The amount of times I’ve heard gays tell me they hate all lesbians. All the times I’ve walked into a gay bar or club and gays look you up and down, screw up their nose and strut away. Heaven forbid you might be competition. The atrocious way a very large percentage of guys treat each other on social apps. Not to mention the way gays base everything on looks, rather than personalities. We’re all potential handbags rather than human beings, right?
Ok, now to marriage equality. What does this really mean for us? While I admit I don’t completely believe in marriage and it’s not something I think I’ll ever experience, I do believe everyone has the right to marry whomever they choose. But will this just give the U-haul removal business a very strong boost? Is this the dream outcome for divorce lawyers? And will this just create a huge spike in short-term marriages? Because gays, in general, really aren’t the best with relationships, right? Most seem to have one eye on their current relationship and one eye on an app to see what else is available. Hate me for saying that but I believe it to be true. Ohh and don’t get me started on “open relationships” – that’s for my next blog!
Let’s face it, in broader terms, Australia really can’t be the face of equality anytime soon. While you might feel the next paragraph is a little off topic, it really isn’t – the way we treat refugees, people of different ethnic backgrounds to what we class as “white Australians” and the way we treat each other is, for lack-of-a-better-word, disgusting. We are without doubt one racist country that does not stand for equality…and that certainly doesn’t change should we legalise gay marriage – this is just a very small part to that word we seem to throw around a lot; “equality”.
To prove my point, the Oxford Dictionary gives the definition of “equality” as: “The state of being equal, especially in status, rights, or opportunities for all”.
However, saying the above I do believe gay marriage will happen within Australia one day in the not-too-distant future. I’m convinced it’ll happen and I really look forwards to that day but you wont see me out flashing my gay flag and shouting all the chants until I feel we’re all treating each other with a little more respect, the respect each and everyone of us deserves. And it starts without our own community.
I don’t pretend to have all the answers. I really don’t. The only answer I can really come up with is this..
..If you really believe in equality, which includes marriage equality, make sure you practise what you preach. Make sure you treat everyone within each and every community, gay or straight, with respect no matter what they believe in, their appearance and what they stand for. Treat each other with the same amount of respect you feel you deserve.
Until then, don’t expect it.